Written by Stannah at 24-07-2018
What is Love? When we take a look at the dictionary definition it seems dull, like something almost tangible. The description that we thought described it best was:
“Love is unconditional selflessness”
It’s by far the emotion we talk about most in the creative arts, it’s something intrinsic we all share as living beings. And you don’t necessarily have to be alive to be loved! Love is what gives us wings to fly, the will to get up in the morning and the inspiration to create life.
We hear a lot about romantic love, but that’s only one type. Love can be found in all shapes and forms, in all its simplistic goodness.
Let’s embark on this journey together, on a celebration of love.
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Why are we choosing to celebrate Love on International Day of Friendship?
On Valentine’s Day we celebrate romantic love, and are bombarded with all the representations and ideas surrounding it, but do we ever take enough time out to celebrate the love we feel for our friends? People who have been there for us through (possibly many) instances of romantic love, the ups and downs life throws at us, through the good times and the bad?
The United Nations set aside this day so we could celebrate friendship, as a way of promoting peace and unity worldwide. The sentiment behind this day really is touching, and makes us think of how creating bonds with the people around us can change our perspectives, and maybe even lead to bigger changes around the world.
This is what the UN have to say about World Day of Friendship:
Our world faces many challenges, crises and forces of division — such as poverty, violence, and human rights abuses — among many others — that undermine peace, security, development and social harmony among the world’s peoples.
To confront those crises and challenges, their root causes must be addressed by promoting and defending a shared spirit of human solidarity that takes many forms — the simplest of which is friendship.
Through friendship — by accumulating bonds of camaraderie and developing strong ties of trust — we can contribute to the fundamental shifts that are urgently needed to achieve lasting stability, weave a safety net that will protect us all, and generate passion for a better world where all are united for the greater good.
But when you think about it, love in all its forms can do just that. So let’s think about all the different types of love we are surrounded by every day!
The Four Types of Love
When we talk about a Celebration of Love, we mean all kinds of love. In fact, the ancient Greeks classified love into four different types:
- Storge = Family Love
- Philia = Friendly Love
- Eros = Romantic Love
- Agape = Divine Love
Later, additional types of Love were added like self-love and courtly love. We all know that there are different kinds of love, and hopefully we’ve all experienced some of the different types. A parent’s love for their children is very different to the love a couple feels for each other. The same goes for the kind of love you feel for your friends, and for your pet for example. It doesn’t mean that one type is more important than another, it’s just different, but it’s all love.
When we look at our own lives, we should be able to distinguish the different kinds of love stories we’ve had over the years; with friends, family-members, pets, colleagues and anyone (or thing) else in our lives. They have given us intense moments of joy but most probably also intense sadness. Like the famous words from Alfred Lord Tennyson: “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. Getting your heart broken is better than keeping it locked away and never experiencing love. That goes for all types of love.
“Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”. Alfred Lord Tennyson
All kinds of love stories:
A Love story between Friends
On a day like today we can’t not talk about some of the best love stories that ever existed. Let’s look at one of the most beautiful and touching love stories between friends that has even been written. It’s a timeless story and has touched many hearts over the last few decades and will continue to do so for many more.
Le Petit Prince (or The Little Prince) by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, is just that. Fun fact: it’s the most translated book in the world! The endearing little Prince takes us on an amazing journey. Anyone who has ever read it will say that it touched their heart in a way that few other stories have. The story is written from the perspective of a pilot (the writer was a pilot in real life) who crashes in the Sahara dessert. There he finds a little blonde boy. Once he’s got over the amazement of finding this unlikely person in a place like that, they begin to talk. The little boy is from another planet and he tells the pilot all about his journey. But we won’t tell you the whole story! We don’t want to spoil it for you if you haven’t read it yet. If you haven’t, you really should put this small book on your to-read list. Even though he’s only a child, the Prince teaches the adult Pilot some important lessons, lessons he will remember long after the Prince returns to his home planet. The lessons all relate to today’s topic: love. One of the most famous quotes about it is:
“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”
The Prince also tells the Pilot about how he and a fox became friends, the dialogue the Prince had with the fox describes love between friends beautifully:
“I am looking for friends. What does that mean — tame?”
“It is an act too often neglected,” said the fox. “It means to establish ties.”
“To establish ties?”
“Just that,” said the fox. “To me, you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of me. To you I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes. But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world…” (From; The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry)
An unforgettable friendship is created in the purest of ways.
A Family Love story
Family and Love go together like bacon and eggs! What would we do without our families? And what would do they do without us? The love a parent feels for their child is unconditional. It’s almost superhuman in times of need, and the absence of it can cause severe emotional problems. Even though we should find a healthy balance when it comes to our own lives and our family lives, we would be lost without their support.
Disney’s Frozen shows how love saves the day once again. However, this time it’s not about a young princess’s love for her Prince Charming. No, the love Princess Anna feels for her sister Queen Elsa is what saves the day in this Disney favourite! The story is inspired by Hans Christians Anderson’s story The Snow Queen.
Princesses Elsa and Anna live happily together, they’re best friends and life is good. As they grow up, we discover that Elsa has magical powers and can control ice, snow and coldness in general. One time, when the two sisters are playing, Elsa accidentally hits her sister Anna with a ray of ice. Little Anna doesn’t die but the injury is serious enough to frighten Elsa and their parents. Elsa proceeds to try to control her powers and shuts her sister out, afraid of hurting her again. After their parents die in a tragic accident, Elsa becomes Queen. Again, we won’t go into details as we don’t want to spoil the story for you if you haven’t seen it yet! Elsa can’t control her powers and leaves their city, choosing a life in peace somewhere where she can’t hurt anyone. She is pursued by evil men who want to control her city try to kill her. Even though Elsa spends the whole time running away and not showing Anna how much she actually loves her for fear of hurting her again, Anna jumps in front of her sister at the moment they try to kill her, killing herself but saving her sister. Anna had been touched by Elsa’s coldness. It nestled into her heart (like in the original story) and only an act of true love could save her. It wasn’t the love of a suiter though, no, only the pure and unconditional love of a sister could be strong enough, breaking the spell and providing a happy ending and showing us how strong the love between siblings can be.
A Romantic Love story
There is no subject that is used quite as much in the creative arts as romantic love. It’s the most passionate kind of love, it’s the kind that gives us butterflies and makes us float up to cloud nine. It’s what gives us the opportunity to create life. There are tons of immortal love stores to be found, think Romeo and Juliet, Tristan and Isolde or Kermit and Miss Piggy! But we wanted to look at a story that took place in real life. That brought us a beautiful but tragic love story.
The story of D. Pedro I of Portugal and Inês de Castro is a Portuguese real-life Romeo and Juliet story from all the way back in the 14th century. Prince Pedro was heir to the Portuguese throne. Naturally, his father, the king, arranged for his son to marry a Princess, Constança from Castile (Spain). When his bride came, she brought her ladies in waiting with her. One of these ladies was Inês de Castro, a Spanish noblewoman who was very beautiful. Pedro and Inês immediately fell in love, Inês stayed at an estate near Pedro’s and the legend goes that the two of them would send secret love letters through a small water channel named “The Fountain of love”. As you can imagine, the affair caused quite the conflict between the two monarchies. Pedro’s father, the King, was furious and sent Inês back to Spain. That did not stop the two lovers however, and they visited each other frequently. When Pedro’s wife died, he brought Inês back to Portugal where they could finally live openly as lovers and had 4 children together. He wanted to marry her but the King and Queen were afraid that would bring too many problems. One day, while Pedro was away, the King seized his chance to get rid of the threat that was Inês. He sent three of his most trusted courtiers and had her assassinated. Pedro was inconsolable when he found out what they had done to the love of his life. He waged war against his father the King and never forgave him. When his father died and Pedro became King, he had her body exhumed from the monastery where she lay, made her a royal tomb and crowned her as Queen, claiming they got married in secret when she was still alive. He then forced the members of his court to kiss her decomposing hand and swear allegiance to their new Queen (!) He then tracked down her assassins and ripped out their hearts with his own bare hands.
Pedro and Inês are buried in the Monastery of Alcobaça, their tombs are placed feet to feet. This way when they rise in the afterlife the first thing they’ll see is one another. Now that’s what we call undying and everlasting love!
Taking a moment to remember
Love is what makes the world go around, it gives us intense joy and fills our hearts with purpose and light. But the other side of the coin isn’t as rose coloured. Love also makes us despair and sad beyond compare, it can break and scar our hearts for a long time. When we lose someone that meant the world to us, life can become difficult for those of us who stay behind. Sometimes people try to forget because the pain of it is just too much, but our loved ones are never really gone. They keep living in our hearts and minds, all we have to do is take a moment to remember them. It won’t take away the sadness we feel, but it’s a way of celebrating the time we had with them. Honour their lives by celebrating the wonderful person that they were to you.
“Where there is love there is life” Mahatma Gandhi
Mahatma Gandhi said it best; “Where there is love there is life” by keeping a part of our loved-ones in our hearts they’re never really gone. They live on through our memory and will never leave us.
What better day to remember our loved-ones who are no longer physically with us, than on the day we celebrate friendship?
- Take a moment to do that for yourself, go on a long walk with a friend if you don’t want to be alone and think about all the nice moments you had together
- Write a letter to the person you’re remembering
- invite some close friends or relatives round for a get-together like a dinner. Share funny, memorable moments you had with the person you’re remembering
The best thing is to remember them when you’re with other people, so you won’t feel lonely. You might need some peace and quiet for yourself, just be careful to not linger in the past. However difficult it may be, remember that life goes on. Hopefully these words of Winnie the Pooh can help you feel a little bit better:
“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard” Winnie the Pooh
The Written word and Love
In order to inspire you to write your own love letter, poem or even a story, we’ve assembled some of the most beautiful love quotes of our time! Go get yourself a pen, a nice piece of stationary and make someone you love a little bit happier today!
- Love is anterior to life, posterior to death, initial of creation, and the exponent of breath – Emily Dickinson
- Love has no age, no limit; and do death – John Galsworthy
- There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship – Thomas Aquinas
- There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved – George Sand
- Speak love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier – Mother Teresa
- We love life, not because we are used to living but because we are used to loving – Friedrich Nietzsche
- A single rose can be my garden…a single friend, my world – Leo Buscaglia
- I have found the one whom my soul loves – Song of Solomon 3:4
- I want to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees – Pablo Neruda
- Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always, one more time – Maya Angelou